My thoughts and experience with a loyalty test in 2026
Oh, How Eye-Opening a Loyalty Test Can Be
As a 40-something married suburbanite, I thought it would be interesting to take a loyalty test. It was! Now, I thought I'd share my results. Hopefully, my story can act as a cautionary tale for you.
A story as old as time. Was my husband's 'work wife' just his work wife? And if not, did he have a roving eye? I mean, if he flirted with her, maybe he flirted with other women.
I'd never heard of loyalty tests, but then I stumbled upon an article in USA Today and, while at first, I'll admit it, I thought, what? That's crazy! Who would do that? The article, and the results, stuck with me.
I started to think about it. First, I started to think about it as a joke. I'd hear my husband laughing in his home office and know he was on Slack with his colleague (yes, that colleague), or I'd see him on his phone and ask who he was texting with, and he'd say, "Oh, it's work," and I'd know... and I'd think about that loyalty test.
But after a couple of weeks of this, I went from thinking about it as a joke to clicking the links and signing up.
I know many people might think this is a bridge too far; when I read the review of Loyalty-Test.com in USA Today, I kind of thought the same thing. No, not kind of, I did think the same thing. I read the article with bated breath, the way you watch a true crime documentary, wondering about the outcome, thinking, wow, that would never happen to me! Thinking, much like the neighbors interviewed, "He (my husband) seemed like such a nice man."
The way it broke down was that, in a loyalty test, you'd pay someone, either a man or a woman, maybe several men or women, to test your partner's loyalty. Those testers would then reach out to your partner through social media. Depending on how far you'd like them to take it, the testers can even set up in-person meetings. They'll take screenshots or photos as evidence, then you'll have proof. Which, while not a great thing, is at least what you need to set your mind at ease.
Should I Do It?
Could I do it? Should I do it? Would my husband actually cheat? I mean, I thought what he did at work was already flirting, so I thought he might flirt with a loyalty tester, but to be fair, the person he talked to at work was someone he knew and talked to on a daily basis. While not an excuse, it was something.
Even if he would flirt, did I want to lay a trap for him? Therein lies the problem. I wanted to know, but I also felt really bad about doing it. If I did it, and he didn't take the bait, great! Of course I'd feel bad about doubting my husband. And if I set up the test and he failed, well, then I'd know, and I guess I'd have to confront him. That was a bridge I'd cross later.
I thought about it a lot, made my pros and cons list, and finally, well, I hit the button. I clicked the link. I jumped in headfirst. I did it. I signed up for an account and ordered a loyalty test.
How Does It Work?
Once you decide to do it, it's fairly easy. You sign up and choose your tester. That's right. You get to choose the woman or man you'd like to flirt with your partner. This way, you can choose the person you think your significant other might be into. You know their type better than anyone, right?
Once you choose your tester, you'll choose a package. The social media package is the one in which the tester simply corresponds via social media and takes screenshots. No in-person meetings take place, which was what I wanted.
This is pretty easy as far as plans go. My husband would either pass or fail, and if he failed, I'd be able to read the screenshots and share them with him when the time came.
Once you choose your package, you provide your tester with your significant other's social media handles, which platforms you'd like them to use, how you'd like them to approach, any tips, and so on. Of course, since they're the testers, they're probably the experts in this, so I assumed my tester already knew what she was doing.
What You Really Want to Know: What Happened?
I guess you probably already know how it ended. I mean, how many happy wives are writing articles about the loyalty test? No, my husband did not pass. My husband is into sports, big time, and his profile photo shows him wearing the jersey of his favorite team. The tester reached out with a "Go Team!" message (insert your favorite team here), and he first responded with a thumbs-up.
Okay so far. And that would've been great if the messages stopped there, but they did not. She sent another message, he responded, and pretty soon, they were flirting. Nothing over the line, really, but still. A woman he didn't know, and he was carrying on a conversation with her, never mentioning he was married, by the way.
Once I had the evidence I needed, she blocked him, which I appreciated. So, he failed the test, but now what? Was what he'd done big enough to confront him with? Huge enough to end a marriage over?
A Rollercoaster of Emotions
Even though my results weren't the worst in the world, believe me, I understand they could have been so much worse, they still weren't the best outcome. My emotions were all over the place. A real rollercoaster. I didn't want to tell anyone what I'd done and didn't want anyone to judge me, but eventually, I realized I couldn't hold it in, and I couldn't make a decision on my own, so I shared it with a friend. She really didn't see a problem with what he'd done.
After all, she said, wouldn't I feel pretty good about myself if a guy DM'd me and struck up a conversation? This sort of stopped me in my tracks, because she wasn't wrong. Let's face it, if, I don't know, a Chris Hemsworth-type or a Josh O'Connor-ish guy sent me a message and did a little flirting, I wouldn't be upset. And the woman I chose to message my husband was not unattractive.
She was right. He hadn't actually cheated, and I couldn't say I wouldn't have done the same thing. He hadn't even given her his phone number.
In the end, I decided not to even show him what I'd done. I deleted the screenshots, the emails, the evidence. I felt like I got the answer I needed, and we actually had a conversation about his flirty work habits. He said he'd never thought of it that way and promised to watch it. And I promised to be a little less... well, a little less. Maybe I don't need to read anything into every laugh I hear from his home office.
The Ethics: Should You Do It?
Since I never shared the test with my husband, there are moments I feel terrible for going behind his back. It feels terrible to lie, especially to your partner. If he ever found out, it would crush him.
Do I regret it, though? No, because I really was worried, and now I feel a lot more secure in my marriage.
Should you do it? I can't answer that for you. To each his or her own. Maybe you feel it's wrong, an invasion of privacy, a trap. If that's you, then don't do it. But if you're someone who is worried you're being cheated on, this is one way to find out. Make your pros and cons list like I did, and see which one comes out on top.
